When Boundaries Offend: A Quiet Lesson on Value, Compassion, and Sustainability

Something interesting happened today.

I received an email telling me my prices were “insane,” immoral, and proof that I’d lost my heart.

On the same day, someone else booked a $444 session without hesitation, drama, or explanation.

That contrast is the lesson.

This isn’t a story about money.
It’s a story about regulation, projection, and what happens when clarity meets misalignment.

The Moral Trap People Fall Into

When someone feels excluded, uncomfortable, or triggered by a boundary, they often reach for morality.

“What about the poor?”
“Who can afford this but the rich?”
“Have you forgotten where you came from?”

These questions sound compassionate on the surface, but they often mask something else entirely: a nervous system reacting to scarcity and turning it into a character judgment.

Discomfort gets reframed as ethics.
Entitlement gets dressed up as concern.

But compassion and access are not the same thing as obligation.

The Part That Matters Most

I built this brand while homeless.

Not metaphorically.
Not as a branding story.
Literally.

Raising my prices wasn’t about greed or ego.
It was about survival, sustainability, and self-respect.

When your nervous system has lived in instability long enough, you reach a fork in the road:

You either normalize collapse and call it virtue,
or you outgrow it.

I chose to outgrow it.

Compassion Without Self-Erasure

Accessibility matters.
Care matters.
Heart matters.

But compassion does not require self-abandonment.

You don’t heal the world by staying underwater.
You don’t serve others by pricing yourself into burnout.
You don’t repair broken systems by sacrificing your nervous system to them.

That isn’t generosity.
That’s reenactment.

And reenactment helps no one.

Why Pricing Is Energetic, Not Moral

I don’t price my work to be accessible to everyone.
I price it to be clean, sustainable, and energetically correct for me.

The right people don’t argue with clarity.
They either meet it—or move on.

And both outcomes are healthy.

High prices don’t exclude people.
Misalignment does.

When someone is aligned, they don’t ask you to justify your worth.
They feel it.

A Truth Most People Avoid

Boundaries will always offend people who benefited from your lack of them.

That doesn’t make the boundary wrong.
It makes it real.

I didn’t lose my heart.
I stopped hemorrhaging it.

I don’t owe my past my future.
And neither do you.

Growth often looks uncomfortable from the outside, especially to those who are still negotiating their own worth.

This work is opt-in.
Not owed.
Not explained.
Not justified.

Just clear.